Last week, I was at a conference, speaking to a dear friend who recently became separated. In the midst of the conversation, this person willfully admitted that the thing they missed most was having sex.
My immediate response was, “So do I.”
The look on this person’s face was priceless – shocked to say the least.
Yes, I was away from home, without kids, with my husband, for five days, and never once did we have sex.
I still can’t get my mind around it.
Somehow my little black dress ended up hanging neatly on a hanger, instead of being crumbled up on the floor next to the bed.
It’s not that we don’t want it. It’s not that we are not connected.
And we are certainly thriving in every other front of our marriage.
So what the hell is going on?
My husband and I made a commitment several months ago to pour everything into our companies. This commitment has resulted in working up to 18 hour days, coupled with not skipping a beat with our three children.
We are going through the motion of our days and we are left feeling physically and mentally exhausted in the end.
When we are together, we are living by a color coded calendar. I’ve realized if you are not on my calendar, you are not getting “done.”
So what’s the solution?
Sometimes you just have to get naked and go with it.
My husband and I are the foundation of our family. We are the rock of our children, home and business. Without a solid foundation, parts of our reality are going to start to crumble.
For us, our foundation is comprised of mental, spiritual, creative, social…and physical components.
Somehow we seemed to have missed that last piece…
But that last piece of intimacy goes far beyond the depths of sex. It is a connection that is needed both in and out of the bedroom (or any other place – on a good day).
It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day responsibilities of life. But if you are fortunate enough to have that significant other, please don’t take it for granted.
We all have busy schedules, but surely everyone has three and a half minutes in their day that they can set aside (I’m so kidding but I couldn’t resist).
So get off the computer. Get naked.
You’ll be glad you did!
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some business to take care of.
PS. I hope you are not easily offended…sometimes you just gotta go with it.